Lez discriminated

Is female gay discrimination still prevalent? I haven't experienced this much. Maybe because I don't look like the obvious kind of lesbian or because I haven't really declared to the world of my sexual preference. But I noticed that female gays are accepted/tolerated to some degree.

Mostly accepted are femmes because they appear and act the same in public. But once a femme is seen with another female gay in public (more so if the mannish kind), people will give you a second look. The co-gays will give a knowing look, the younger straights with a curious stare, the older straights with disapproving gaze.

I think people in the metro don't mind female gays that much anymore. They only get affected if say a lez couple are heavily PDAing or a lez is on an eye catching outfit. In general the two cases apply even to straights.

The more I think about it, the more I'm convinced that maybe I'm the one discriminating myself. Because I won't come out for fear of hurting my family. Maybe I am underestimating their capacity to understand and love me. And the truth is i really don't want to come out because I want to keep this part of me personal. I don't want the nuances of coming out - the heavy drama (I have enough to last a lifetime), the interrogation (kaya ba minsan hindi ka umuuwi sa bahay?!), the explanations (na hindi lang ako pumapatol sa tomboy, kundi tomboy din ako), the assurance (na hindi ako matutuyot).

I hope there's a support group for parents with gay kids so that  everyone can cope better. I'd like to educate them about gays without raising their suspicion of me.

Acceptance will be easier if they are equipped with correct information. They have to embrace not just me as their gay daughter but more importantly, the concept. Because the real battle for my parents I think is explaining/defending their daughter from relatives, neighbors, friends without hurting in the process.