3.29.2010

equality is next to holiness

Two flicks to see this week. i know holy week is about abstinence. and watching the two on my end is far from sacrifice. but i feel the divine presence given the timing of the screening of these two lgbt flicks. because i can feel abstinence from prejudice from mass media this holy week. equality is next to holiness =)

1. Butch - GMA 7's SRO Cinema -
excellently played by sunshine dizon. this will be shown on thursday,around 9-10pm. the story i think is about a butch raising a child as her own, after the child was abandoned by the biological mother. years later, the bio mom will claim the child and the butch mom will fight for her right as mother to the child. this surely will be intense. sunshine won a best actress award for her portrayal here sometime 2008 or 2009 i think. i failed to watch it then. so i'm blessed to see its replay this week! =) let's support this one as lesbian films/tv shows in philippine cinema comes as rare as unicorn sightings.


this is her second time to play a butch role. first one was in the film Sabel, opposite judy ann santos, where sunshine played the role of butch doctor from baguio and who saves Sabel.

she is the only contemporary female actress i know who can effectively play the butch role. who is believable. i secretly wished she truly is gay, but alas! she just got married recently, to a guy. ohwell. hope she continues to be gay-friendly.




2. I Love You Phillip Morris - see link here in my old post of it for the film details. this is now showing in SM cinemas. will try to catch it tomorrow as i've been waiting for this since last year.

3.28.2010

Let Us



i continue to have doubts once in a while, the skeptic that i am. not the one to adhere to the notion of forever. the one who's impulsive, impatient, falls in easily and falls out as fast. highly analytical yet very temperamental. always with great expectations (if i may borrow from charles dickens). and so in spite of myself, you remain to be my biggest irony. come and ...


Let's Just Fall In Love Again
Let's pretend baby
That you've just met me
And I've never seen you before
I'll tell all my friends
That I think you're staring
And you say the same to yours

And oh, we'll dance around it all night
And then I'll follow you outside
And try to open up my mouth
And nothing comes out right

And I wanna fall in love with you again
I don't have to try
It's so easy
Who needs to pretend?
But because it's so funny
Let's just think about it, honey
Let's just fall in love again

I'll call you in three days
Not too soon, not too late
And I'll ask your roommate if you're home
You call me on Thursday
And we'll hang out all day
Then fall asleep on the phone

And oh, I'll hold your hand when we drive
And we'll lose track of all the time
And we'll tell everyone
That we ain't never felt so alive

And I wanna fall in love with you again
I don't have to try
It's so easy
Who needs to pretend?
But because it's so funny
Let's just think about it, honey
Let's just fall in love again

We'll fall disgustingly fast
And we'll stop hanging out with friends
And they'll be so offended

And I wanna fall in love with you again
I don't have to try
It's so easy
Who needs to pretend?
But because it's so funny
Let's just think about it, honey
Let's just fall in love again
Let's just fall in love again

3.23.2010

Constance McMillen - lesbian teen with a stance!



not sure if you've been abreast with how proms are done these days. well, not to my surprise, but largely to my dismay, not much has changed, until Constance took a stand.

she requested if she can wear a tuxedo and bring her gf as date. to which the school of Mississippi said NO. We say foul!

so American Civil Liberties Union was kind enough to sue the school (Itawamba County school) and required them to allow Constance her right.

the school not to be outsmart just like that, decided to cancel the prom altogether. Boo!

the teenagers partly blamed poor Constance of what happened.

the court proceeding is ongoing. see the update here: Judge hears lesbian teen's suit to force prom

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"All I wanted was the same chance to enjoy my prom night like any other student," McMillen said in a statement last week. "But my school would rather hurt all the students than treat everyone fairly. This isn't just about me and my rights anymore - now I'm fighting for the right of all the students at my school to have our prom."

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let's Support Constance, be a fan of her facebook page

celesbians are all out in their support too!

Wanda Sykes invited Constance and her girlfriend to attend the GLAAD awards.
Chef Cat Cora (herself a Mississippi native) issued a statement and offered to make an appearance at prom.
Ellen DeGeneres guested Constance on her show and donated $30k for her scholarship.

3.22.2010

boss from hell vs firewomyn



it's monday! how best to start the week but thru my regular dose of abuse from no other than boss from hell. :)

what was i thinking actually having a fantasy on big boss and her big boobs from my day one of work?? i mean seriously, how can i not see beyond that bosom. that the body to which those wonderful breasts are attached to is from the devil. nope, not the classy type who wears brands the likes of prada. it's the devil with cheap taste. ugh.

for today, i must have done something interesting because her voice was a notch higher when she directed to me her profanities and words meant to belittle me.

"you should change your title from project manager to project leader instead!" looking all mad and smug.

err was that a compliment laced with insult? or a downright insult? because she's boss from hell, it sure was meant to be an insult.

but since she's not as articulate as i am, and not a graduate of UP, she actually made the insult mean the opposite without her realizing it.

c'mon, aren't leaders socially/politically above managers? puh-lease. can't that particular boss from hell do better than that? hay, such a waste of my time.

i don't know what got into me today, but instead of my usual acquiescent self, i found the voice to rebut and fight her every argument tooth and nail. of course all delivered with calculated poise. the rest of the meeting attendees surely hate me now for dragging the meeting longer than necessary. but i won't let that boss from hell stomp on me like that.

after that heated debate (felt like that) in her office room, i'm twisted whether to report to my supervisor that i felt violated by her downward/far from constructive demeanor against me. no one that i know of actually went against the boss almighty.

if i report her, my supervisor might not even escalate and just tell me i'm being sensitive.

if i report her, my supervisor will tell big boss from hell, and i will get hell's fury most definitely!

if i report her, boss from hell will be forced to talk to me and i will be forced to fake listening to her. and we will be forced to fake a truce. the feeling of disgust is obviously mutual.

if i report her, i will from then on have a bull's eye target on my back for the next sack. one mistake and boom! i'm out!

gosh, can't she just die tomorrow so i won't need to report her? can't it be easy for me for once please?

i take comfort in the fact that we're of opposing teams and if she's from hell, then i must have heaven on my side. hah! beat that!

3.10.2010

experience extraordinaire

a week ago before my birthday, i had this epiphany. i would celebrate my birthday somewhere in between art and nature.

on tuesday, my birthday, after the train ride (from Train of Thoughts), it lead me to Harbour Square. A place in between CCP and Manila Bay. So what's in between art and nature? People. Can also be commercialism. =)

Donned in my black sleeveless shirt, worn out low-waist faded gray canvas pants (been with me for like 4-6yrs already) with rips to booth, purple nails and slippers, i settled at a resto with empty chairs and table outside.

this is what i want to have on my birthday, peace and quiet, alone to enjoy my fave book of the moment, with a taste of something sweet and what-not, with sunlight and subtle breeze and multi-cultural sight of people.

i felt alive, inspired. i felt totally happy birthday. cheers to my day! =)


Train of Thoughts


Thoughts that trailed off as I make "tunganga" during my afternoon train ride en route to somewhere.



The single-minded sunlight
crashing thru the window train,
unstoppable,
imprinting my skin.
No barrier hindered
the rays from meeting me.
It is as if its only mission
is to just see me
and touch me
and never leave me.
My pores, in open embrace,
they accepted it.
Never minding that
they've been waiting
long before the other realized
it needs to be here.

Gay Marriage now Legal in D.C.




D.C. Joins Five States in Legalizing Gay Marriage

by Mike Krumboltz

Gay marriage continues to be a hot-button issue for many Americans. Whenever it's legalized (or banned) anywhere in the world, searches immediately soar. In Washington, D.C., gay marriage was recently legalized, sparking tremendous Web interest.

A lesbian couple who had been together for 12 years became the first same-sex couple to be married in the nation's capital. With the couple's union, Washington, D.C. joined New Hampshire, Vermont, Iowa, Massachusetts, and Connecticut, as the only places in the United States that allow people of the same sex to legally marry.

Of course, gay marriage is a specific definition. When things are broadened to include domestic partnerships or civil unions, the list of states grows substantially. According to About.com, California, Hawaii, Maine, Washington state, Nevada, Oregon, and New Jersey allow same-sex couples to "obtain some legal recognition for their relationships."

Interestingly, according to NJ.com, the upcoming United States census will allow same-sex couples in New Jersey to "identify themselves as married." This is significant in that the census is an official government document. The census will allow "same-sex couples [to] label themselves as husband or wife even if their relationships are not recognized by law."

While laws regarding gay marriage vary by state in the United States, other countries have clearer definitions. For example, in Europe, several countries have clear legal-marriage laws. According to an article from the BBC, the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Norway, and Sweden all have legalized gay marriage. Additionally, Portugal, a primarily Catholic country, is expected to legalize gay marriage in the near future. Other countries that have done the same include Canada and South Africa.

As for where gay marriage is banned, the list is a bit longer, at least in the United States. The laws are complicated and can vary between statute bans and constitutional bans. States that have constitutional bans include, but are not limited to, Florida, Ohio, Texas, Utah, Michigan, Virginia, Mississippi, and Georgia. User-edited site Wikipedia offers up a complete list.

After Washington, D.C., legalized same-sex marriage, Web searches on "gay marriage states" and "where is gay marriage legal" both soared. Also gaining traction in the Search box: "differences between gay marriage and civil unions."

source: Y! Buzz

Related articles:
Same-sex couples in D.C. say 'I do'

D.C. same-sex marriage law takes effect this week

State By State: The Legal Battle Over Gay Marriage

Sweden allows same-sex marriage

Same-sex marriage law backed in Portugal's parliament

Same-sex marriage status in the United States by state

3.07.2010

disheartened



sabi nila, life is not to be taken too seriously. if you can't fix its entirety, find humor in it at least.

maybe if we sum up all the little joys they'd amount to happiness.

i'm never good in math, and patience (with visions, long term), so i won't worry about them that much and just savor each joyous moment as they hit me.

in between, sadness, disappointments will try to knock off the small joy prettily perched on my heart.

heart will try to hold on to the joy, but sometimes (or was it often?), fatigue will pull me down and make me loosen my grip to joy.

and she'll have no choice but to fly away leaving sadness & disappointment clawed to my heart, sometimes too deep that i would hurt and may even bleed.

nothing is permanent.

sadness & disappointment will get bored and shoo away in search probably of their next victim.

joy that had to fly away is just hovering above and i was just not looking up because i'm feeling way down and heavy.

joy will fly back and visit me again, specially when heart is empty.

she'll tentatively hop on my heart and ask me "how are you?"

heart would tighten with pain and then cry, howl, letting it out, all to mean that nothing is okay.

joy will face me, cup my heart and hug it.

will whisper "hush now baby, i'm here".

and i will be alright. :)

3.03.2010

Train Crush2

there's beauty in the train madness this morning. :)

she stood out literally because she's very tall. and how can anyone miss that pretty snobbish (very well entitled to it) womyn? she's beautiful, what more if she smiled right? :)

hay, another sweet ride, even though i just stood the whole time.





3.01.2010

the tale of going home early



maaga ako pumasok sa office. syempre, gusto ko maaga din umuwi. i came in 45min earlier, cut short my lunch break by 30min, took dynamo vits to pump me for a grueling monday. ate my breakfast while working, as in rice and ulam ha. hehe. soo construction worker of me. i did my pareto list (Pareto principle: focusng on the top 20% of the causes will fix 80% of the problems) so that i expend effort on where it's most needed. needless to say, i'm all geared up to go home early. target: 5:30pm.

i can stand tons of work except for two things: long meetings (anything beyond 30min) and menial/manual work.

for the most part i feel meetings beyond 30min is a waste of my valuable time. so i always bring my planner/notebook, fake attention and do work while in a meeting. before, i bring my laptop but others get bothered by it or was i too obvious in doing something else then? anyhoo, notebook/planner is more discreet. i attempted in the past to put order in the meeting i attend by asking for an agenda and butting in if people digress. but that show of aggression/assertion earned me the ire of the almighty bosses. so i kept it to myself. later they brought it up to me that i don't speak that much in meetings anymore. so i said, there is nothing to say, there's no agenda, many topics don't concern me. my boss said, if i want order in meetings, i can gather the topics and come up with the agenda. yeah right! your idea, your work! that's how it freakin operates. i did that but people always say they don't have anything new to raise, come meetings, topics just mushroomed as if somebody peed on the carpet. fast forward, i stopped caring. i'm in it for the money and i make sure my ass is covered.

menial work. coming from a web development background, i was appalled to learn that people in the office live by thru excel formulas and macros. wtf?! is this the roaring 90s? geez. i mean, there are far more sophisticated ways to do things. the other side of it is that i know no excel macros. never found the need to do so when i have the web server and visual studio at my fingertips. but as devolution goes, i had to retro-adapt. those excel spreadsheets are connected to another manual hell, portal with excel-looking tables (sharepoint sites) that crawls the pace of snail.

i get bitch fits every time network is slow, because i get suffocated with slow connection. i think i can really have hypertension attack caused not by slow oxygen flow in the brain, but due to slow network bandwidth to my laptop.

we have this tool in the office. it would have been grand if it automated atleast 50% of the work, but it only did 20% i think. so at the end of the day, my fingers crackle due to too much typing/clicks out of agonizing labor.

those two things weaken me. so i would avoid them if i can. for today though, no escape. i had two meetings that started late. grrr! while i plan my day carefully, others don't. not only were they late, meetings went overtime. the big boss doing her usual rants and usual monologue of woes. as if i care or even listening.

no use bitching about the things i can't control so i just let my pareto list lead my day. salvation. :)

brownout happened around 4pm, not perturbed was almost done by then. and was just waiting for updates from other people for my status reports. however dependencies limit my actions and 5:30 became 6pm. not bad still.

i went out of the building with the sun still out. it felt like eye-squinting brightness. i imagine my skin would burn ala-vamp. everything felt surreal. surreal, but happy. honest day's work completed as planned.

hey, i can get used to this. :)

2.28.2010

G2G Speed Dating

finally, another speed dating event. yipee! :) fun fun!

i was able to watch a speed dating already, i think last year at QC, organized by sms30event. when i say watch, it's because i was just part of the audience having free cocktails and not a participant in the speed dating.

what's interesting there was that it's a multicultural, multi-industry mix. there's gaby dela merced(F3 racecar driver), chef ginny villar with partner beth angsioco (women's rights activist), female foreigners from the govt embassy as one of the organizers/friends of the organizers i think. venue was in the beautiful Adarna resto along Kalayaan.

most of the speed dating participants then were butch. this time i hope it will be more diverse. a friend of mine is joining. i want to also! not that i'm single, but just to meet & know new people. if not, hope they allow just onlookers. :) see you there! :)


2.27.2010

shooting spree

been feeling this way for days. dreary & empty. if i didn't have to go to work, i would have sat beside him and placed my arm on his. misery loves company.

chanced upon this guy on my way to the train.



but then saw this at the Makati underpass en route to my office. that part of the phrase just stared at me and i had to stop.

which is the universal panacea to life - reason or love?

2.21.2010

Love Pole - an artistic experience

For those who missed the Love Pole show, I'm sharing the videos I took. Twas one great artistic experience, truly impressive and a first for me.

While I admit that it also inspired a gush of sexual emotions, their version of pole dancing is an elevated form for me based from the mediocre pole shows I've seen. Kudos to PoleCats! :)

Pardon the slightly blurred recording as my phone was lowbatt already when I started recording the show. Enjoy!

My top 3 performances:

1. PoleCats students


2. solo performance by Margaret - most lean (with ripped legs and abs to boot) performer. She's a star!


3. Girl vs Girl (GVG) - bravo!



The rest of the artistic pole dances:










Can't get enough of them?
Catch GirlVSGirl on www.facebook.com/girlvsgirl and www.facebook.com/polecatsmanila. Contact 0917-5356237 or call the Movement Dance Studio (Ortigas 9448075/4744283, and Makati 3926220) for details. They offer dance classes. I'm seriously considering it, maybe after I've toned down a bit. :)

2.18.2010

food for thought

fruits are not just juicy, thought provoking too! :) enjoy! :D




2.16.2010

Train Crush

I overslept this morning and was rushing to the train. Had to squeeze myself in and just stood the whole time of the ride. And from this, I discovered the joy of the train ride thru this pretty cool grrrl. :)

i'm soo digging the hair, the face with her beautiful profile and svelte figure. sigh. if only the ride would go on. from where she alighted, i figured she's a college student.

to pretty, cool grrl - please don't think i'm stalking you. you just stood out from the crowd and i wasn't able to help myself from staring (thru my phone) and had to capture that whimsical moment.


*click the pic for the full image*


Womyn on pole ;)

we've always been fascinated with womyn and seeing them romance the pole is one imagery sure to ignite us. so for more fire, here's something exciting, something with womyn, and something FREE!!! see you!




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Girl on girl action-on a pole
By Bianca Consunji

Philippine Daily Inquirer
DateFirst Posted 22:05:00 02/16/2010





This unique tandem is getting more people interested in the dance-exercise


ON A DARK, SILENT STAGE, TWO women walk to a silver pole. Faint strains of piped-in music play, and a spotlight snaps on to reveal both of them on the pole—blindfolded.

The audience, initially stunned, breaks into applause and scattered hoots of support.

The music goes on, and Christina Dy and Mirell Macalinao—the faces behind the otherwise tantalizing stage team name of GirlVSGirl (GVG), arguably one of Manila’s most popular pole acts—begin a series of surprising acts on a pole. They clamber up the pole, spin around it, balance on each other, turn upside down: It seems there is nothing they can’t do on that unyielding piece of metal.

But make no mistake; this is no sleazy bar act. In fact, by day, Dy and Macalinao aren’t even professional dancers.

The 33-year-old Dy is an acclaimed visual artist whose charcoal sketches regularly grace the walls of the Silverlens Lab (she is also one of CCP’s 2009 Thirteen Artists awardees). Macalinao, 29, meanwhile, is a bank employee.

But to other people, they’re pole dance rock stars whose performances are a staple at places such as Mag:Net, Saguijo and fitness/beauty events.


Unremarkable start

However, they didn’t grow up dancing on every available pole they saw. In fact, Dy insists her first few sessions as a student were unremarkable.

“Mich Dulce brought me, and I was hooked!” she recalls. “I was the worst student but I was challenged. Pole dancing had a lot of possibilities.”

Dy and Macalinao met at Movement Dance Studio, where they took lessons under Ed Aniel, who is credited with popularizing pole dancing in the Philippines (he currently runs the Pole Dance Academy at the Clara Ramona Studio).

“CD and I became friends because we both enjoyed practicing long hours together at the studio, even beyond class hours,” Macalinao says. “Later on, as I learned more and more new stuff from CD, this inspired me to continue on practicing to improve and keep up. All those hours together led to GVG.”

Dy adds, “Eventually our class got dissolved, so I asked Mirell, ‘OK, what can we do with just the two of us?’”

While they learned the basics from Aniel, they eventually started looking online for more sources of inspiration.

“We learned 99 percent of our tricks from YouTube,” Dy says. “Yes, really!” (So don’t be put off by those videos of people falling from the top of the pole—with practice and supervision, it can be prevented).

Right name

And of course, there was a matter of finding the right name for their new tandem. Dy credits the name to her friend Mihk Vergara, who also came up with the name of the pole group she founded, the Polecats.

“I love the name,” she says. “We were chatting, and I said I wanted a cool name that’s easy to remember. And, voila!”

It goes without saying that two barely dressed, hot women who can perform gymnastic feats on a pole (occasionally blindfolded) get a lot of attention, sometimes unwanted.

“Most people’s reactions are very encouraging. They clap and ‘ooh’ and ‘aah’ at the right moments,” Dy shares. “I’ve gotten a lot of students—and a lot of free drinks!—after they’ve seen us perform.”

But “there are some who are quite rude; some shout ‘MOMOL [make out make out] na lang! Laplapan na lang!’ It’s annoying, but, well, not everyone’s educated enough to appreciate the artistry of it all. We don’t let those stop us from performing.”

Macalinao says, “Some express amazement at the tricks. I let them know that this stuff can be learned by anyone willing to work hard.”

Imperfect moments

Like any co-workers, the two also have their less-than-perfect moments, but make it a point to not let it affect their performance onstage. (It’s difficult to not trust the person with you if you’re holding on to that other person for dear life while clinging to a pole.)

Dy shares, “Usually, Mirell and I talk to each other while performing. I usually say what trick we’re going to do next. Once, Mirell said no. And we were arguing and fighting while performing! Hindi naman halata from the video, thank goodness.”

Of course, the question many potential pole dancers want answered is: Have they suffered from any serious injuries?

“In one trick, with CD balanced on my legs and me holding on to the pole carrying both our weights, I was supposed to slide slowly down,” Macalinao said. “But my hands were so sticky, they wouldn’t budge at all! It was so heavy and I wanted to let go so badly, but I couldn’t because we’d both crash to the floor. I panicked and shouted for CD to get off. Before that time, my fear had always been that my grip would slip and we’d crash. It never occurred to me to worry about getting my grip ‘stuck’ on the pole.”

But other than that, the two agree the risks in pole dancing are exaggerated by YouTube videos of falling dancers.

“We’re still both in one piece!” Dy declares. “We’ve both fallen during performances, but we’re still alive and dancing.”

Even a sprained wrist or two won’t stop the women of GirlVSGirl from dancing.

“Pole dancing makes me strong, it helps me lead a healthy lifestyle,” Dy says. “It allows me to express myself in an altogether different way from drawing. And since I started teaching, it has been a venue to help other women [and men] feel that extraordinary sense of self as well.”

Macalinao adds, “Pole dancing is a challenge. I enjoy working on pole tricks and I love the feeling of finally getting a beautiful pose right. Also, it reassures me to know, from experience, that every day, every hour and every minute of practice always leads to some progress.”

Catch GirlVSGirl on www.facebook.com/girlvsgirl and www.facebook.com/polecatsmanila. Contact 0917-5356237 or call the Movement Dance Studio (Ortigas 9448075/4744283, and Makati 3926220) for details.

E-mail the author at biancaconsunji@yahoo.com.

source: inquirer.net

2.14.2010

Beyond VDay



The article below was sent to me by a friend. It tries to explain the science why relationships plateau in time. While it is true that dynamics shift from fucking like rabbits to sometimes nothing, it just underscores that relationship make up is not just love, attraction, sex. We can all have relationships with just one of those three things. I know I dive head on in relationships not even examining if it's love. But to me, relationship is not about any of those three, it is about commitment. Having the three would surely help keep the commitment, but they are not the holy trinity of relationships. This entry may be anti-Vday to some, that's why I'm posting it almost end of VDay so that we can re-assess after all the sweat, fluids, screams, words, emotions, and yes, money (and what have yous) have been released on this specific day.

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Sex chemistry 'lasts two years'

Couples should not worry when the first flush of passion dims - scientists have identified the hormone changes which cause the switch from lust to cuddles.

A team from the University of Pisa in Italy found the bodily chemistry which makes people sexually attractive to new partners lasts, at most, two years.

When couples move into a "stable relationship" phase, other hormones take over, Chemistry World reports.

But one psychologist warned the hormone shift is wrongly seen as negative.

Dr Petra Boynton, of the British Psychological Society, said there was a danger people might feel they should take hormone supplements to make them feel the initial rush of lust once more.

'Not ever-lasting'

The Italian researchers tested the levels of the hormones called neutrophins in the blood of volunteers who were rated on a passionate love scale.


It is suggesting that what happens first is the best bit - and that isn't true
Dr Petra Boynton, British Psychological Society

Levels of these chemical messengers were much higher in those who were in the early stages of romance.

Testosterone was also found to increase in love-struck women, but to reduce in men when they are in love.

But in people who had been with their partners for between one and two years these so-called "love molecules" had gone, even though the relationship had survived.

The scientists found that the lust molecule was replaced by the so-called "cuddle hormone" - oxytocin - in couples who had been together for several years.

Oxytocin, is a chemical that induces labour and milk-production in new and pregnant mothers.

Donatella Marazziti, who led the research team, said: "If lovers swear their feelings to be ever-lasting, the hormones tell a different story."

Similar research conducted by Enzo Emanuele at the University of Pavia found that levels of a chemical messenger called nerve growth factor (NGF) increased with romantic intensity.

After one to two years, NGF levels had reduced to normal.

'Real Cupid's arrows'


The researchers said: "Whether more nerve growth is needed in the early stage of romance because of all the new experiences that are engraved into the brain, or whether it has a second, as yet unknown function in the chemistry of love, remains to be explored."

Michael Gross, a bio-chemist and science writer who has studied the latest findings, said: "It shows that different hormones are present in the blood when people are acutely in love while there is no evidence of the same hormones in people who have been in a stable relationship for many years.

"In fact the love molecules can disappear as early as 12 months after a relationship has started to be replaced by another chemical glue that keeps couples together."

He added: "To any romantically inclined chemist, it should be deeply satisfying to be able to prove that chemical messengers communicate romantic feeling between humans."

"It may be the only thing that science can offer as a real-world analogy to Cupid's arrows."

But Dr Boynton said: "This feeds into a 1970s view that when you meet it's all sparky, and then it's a downward trajectory to cuddles - which is seen as a negative.

"It is suggesting that what happens first is the best bit - and that isn't true."

She added: "I'm concerned that, having identified these hormones, there will be some move to suggest replacements to recreate the early passion."

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Source : BBC news

2.10.2010

In sickness and in health




I got sick last week. Had fears. Worried sick (redundant. Haha). Totally unnecessary, not helpful. Was exhausted and weak all over. Okay, it's just a freaking flu, but senseless worry and exaggerated drama made it feel carcinogenic. Overacting aside, supportive social system managed to take me out of that malady-rama.

Doctors have the power to hurt us and break our spirits. But we also have the innate weapon to counter that sans a medical degree. I dare call it faith. That mindset that things will be all right no matter how bad this doctor makes it sound or how awful our mind can magnify it as we grapple for our mortality.

I wonder why when we get sick, though physiological, the first thing it hits is our emotion. Our chests run amuck with anguish and negativity on the whys and how unfair life is of which no drug can ease.

Suddenly, the work we've been prioritizing for years where we mindlessly waste our bodies for doesn't seem that urgent or more important anymore. Wakeup call? More like waking from a bad case of hangover that will stick until ill. Ugh. Not good.

The best doctors I had last week were not in white coats but with true blue affection for me - my family, SO and my select friends. They didn't tire slapping me to logic and out of my over-top feeling of self-pity. Good thing was really week then thus didn't have the energy to slap back. Hehe. My turn will come when they too get sick. Huh! :D

Seriously though, I'm soo happy to finally be well. Well enough to at least write a few stuff. Tee hee. Thanks for all who wished me well. :)

Mor(t)al lessons:

1. Don't get sick when you have no one to pour your nonsense to.
2. Sickness starts with the mind, then the rest will follow.
3. To be weak is normal, to be sick - that's our fault

1.27.2010

Let's Drive!

While we're at the lez music topic these days and because V Day is just a few weeks away, let's raise the temperature higher. let's sizzle baby! hehe.

here's a sample of what a lesbian song is - no hesitation, no undertones. it's raw, it's intense!

introducing, gay singer/songriter Melissa Ferrick, with her song Drive.



Video:



**yep, it's kate moss on pole. yeah, ohmyfuckingosh! :D


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DRIVE
by melissa ferrick


If you want this
if you want this
if you want this, you’re gonna have to ask
nicely please
yeah if you want this
you’re gonna have to ask me
you’re gonna have to ask me

Whatever you want
I’ll give it to you
I’ll give it to you slowly
‘till you’re just begging me to hold you
ya whatever you want
whatever you want
but you’re gonna have to ask me

Your mouth waters
stretched out on my bed
your fingers are trembling
and your heart is heavy and red
and your head is bent back
and your back is arched
my hand is under there
holding you up

I’ll hold you up
and drive you all night
I’ll hold you up
and drive you baby ‘till you feel the daylight
I’ll hold you up
and drive you all night
I’ll hold you up
and drive you ‘till you feel the daylight
that’s right
that’s right

In the kitchen
in the shower
and in the back seat of my car
I’ll hold you up
in your office
preferably during business hours
‘cause you know how I like it when there’s people around
and I know how you like it
yeah I know how you like it
I know how you like it when I tease you for hours

Your mouth waters
stretched out on my bed
your fingers are trembling
and your heart is heavy and red
and your head is bent back
and your back is arched
and my hand is under there
holding you up

I’ll hold you up
and drive you all night
I’ll hold you up
and drive you baby ‘till you feel the daylight
I’ll hold you up
and drive you all night
I’ll hold you up
and drive you ‘till you feel the daylight
oh and this has just begun

Yeah this has just begun
because we haven’t even gotten started yet
I haven’t even
I haven’t even tied you up
I haven’t even turned you over
this is where I want to live
right here between your hips
where all the love you hold and hide
it’s where it lives
right here between your hips
this is where I want to live
it’s where all the love you give exists

Your mouth waters
stretched out on my bed
your fingers are trembling
and your heart is heavy and red
your head is bent back
your back is arched
my hand is under there
holding you up

I’ll hold you up
and drive you all night
I’ll hold you up
and drive you baby ‘till you feel the daylight
I’ll hold you up
and drive you all night
I’ll hold you up
and drive you baby ‘’till you feel the daylight
that’s right
yeah
that’s right
that’s right
that’s right
I’ll hold you up
that’s right
that’s right
I’ll drive you all night

1.26.2010

I Kissed a Girl - lez version

i keep hearing this song and admittedly likes the catchy tune. however, if we listen to it very carefully, we know that the song is for faux-lesbians. it actually pisses me hear some of its lines (ex. "experimental game") because it downplays the girl-to-girl theme. so 'thought of coming up with the same song and tune with lez customized lyrics. hehe. enjoy!

best to sing with accompaniment (right click here)

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I Kissed a Girl - lez version

This was always the way I planned
Yeah, my intention
I got so brave, drink in hand
Ditched my discretion
It's sure what, I'm used to
Just want to try you on
I'm curious for you
Caught my attention

I kissed a girl and I like it
The taste of her cherry lipstick
I kissed a girl 'cause I want it
I hope my girlfriend don't mind it
It felt so strong
It felt so right
Don't mean I'm in love tonight
I kissed a girl and I like it.
I love it.

No, I don't even know your name
It doesn't matter.
You're my sentimental flame
Just human nature,
It's not what,
straight girls do
Not how they should behave
My heart gets so obvious
Hard to disobey

I kissed a girl and I like it
The taste of her cherry wet lick
I kissed a girl, want to try it
I hope my girlfriend don't mind it
It felt so strong
It felt so right
Don't mean I'm in love tonight
I kissed a girl and I like it
I love it.

Us girls we are so magical
Soft skin, red lips, so kissable
Hard to resist so touchable
Too good to deny it
Ain't it so real, not innocent

I kissed a girl and I like it
The taste of her naughty wet lick
I kissed a girl, want to try it
I hope my girlfriend don't mind it
It felt so strong
It felt so right
Don't mean I'm in love tonight
I kissed a girl and I like it
I love it.

1.20.2010

The good stuff in Golden Globe Awards!

I bet you've never thought this could happen huh? :D Relish!

These actually happened in the recent Golden Globe Awards 2010 when Sandra Bullock bagged the Best Actress for a Drama film. She was so shocked/happy that she suddenly kissed presenter Meryl Streep, to which Meryl gamely obliged.

Haven't seen the film, but I think the pix below are more dramatic! Hehe. :D







See it in action here: Meryl Streep & Sandra Bullock kiss

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It seems to be a trend now for two hot women to kiss, or insinuate that they can be gay. Either to shock the straights, to check how it feels like, to be cool or to just join the gay fame.

I dunno, by reflex I wouldn't want it, because it's like using gays to show off. But then again it makes being gay common which will make people comfortable with gays in public.

It also helps to educate people that gays are not limited to the obvious kind (ex. butch).

In the age of Lady Gaga, user-friendly and shock value are the hit mix! If they use us, might as well use them too. Huh! Freaking fair deal. So go kiss the next hot womyn you see, just make sure you're as hot to be kissed back. *wink wink*

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WORD/s OF MOUTH

fyke
When a girl acts like she's lesbian with her friends in a joking way but she's really not lesbian. Also, when a girl makes out with another girl strictly to turn guys on.

fesbian
someone who pretends to be a lesbian to gain attention from guys, or because being a lesbian is the "cool thing to do"

sapphosexual, faux lesbian
a straight woman who indulges in the lesbian lifestyle just because it's trendy

SOURCE: Urban Dictionary

1.17.2010

Ang Ladlad - finally good news!



After rejection in the last two elections, and unjust immorality charges, gay group "Ang Ladlad" is now finally accredited as a party list in the Philippines by the Commission on Elections (Comelec) to join the national elections in May 10, 2010. Yey!

The journey my friends has been long and rough, rejection on all fronts, but good things can come to those who fight!

The fight continues as we battle it out in the elections this May. For those one with us, we ask for your support in any way. :)

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full article here

learn more about Ang Ladlad here

immorality grounds hurled last time here

1.13.2010

are you ready for The Runaways?

Behold... Joan Jett (Kristen Stewart) and Cherie Currie (Dakota Fanning) of the renowned The Runaways.

I personally didn't watch the Twilight movies. I think they're overrated. But seeing Kristen here, playing this uber cool rocker lesbian chick Joan, OMG, I'm suddenly a convert and panting like a dog. And imagining Dakota and Kristen's anticipated lip-lock is enough to ignite me on my seat. I love Joan, I love Kristen (now). I can't believe she can be this cool, sexy and gay! The eyeliner is enough for me to love her for all her angst. This is spontaneous babbling. I'll try to write a more coherent review/post once I've recovered from seeing her open her legs this wide (actually, i want it wider. haha).



official trailer:



let's watch this once it's shown in Manila. :)

1.12.2010

Senti 2

posting a rejoinder from Kim on my Senti post.This was originally a comment, but it's too good to be left hidden in the comments section. So posting for everyone to enjoy. :)

note: this is with Kim's permission




Napansin na kita noon.
Unang tanong sa sarili, may syota kaya siya?

Pagtingin sa status mo-
In a relationship with ____
Sad.

Asa pa 'kong mababakante ka.
Para ka lang UP Ikot na laging puno sa umaga.

Nakaraan pa ang ilang buwan,
nakita ka muli.
Tinignan ang iyong status-
Single.

Kunot noo.

Ako hindi. =(

Ilang fast forward pa ba ang kailangan
Para ang status nati'y maging magkatugma?

1.10.2010

Senti



Napansin na kita noon pa.
Nagpacute ako sa yo, alam mo ba?
kaso hindi mo ko pinansin ha.

Sad.
Fast forward.

Ilang taon na ang nakaraan. 
mula sa kung saan,
bigla kang nagparamdam.

Chineck ko status mo,
ikaw ay may SO.

Hmm...

Syempre, kahit matagal na,
kinilig pa rin ako ng bahagya.
Kaya ayun, pinansin naman kita.

Haha. Hindi na nagpakipot!
Ambilis kong sumagot.

kaya muli akong nagsulat.
Pero hindi lang dahil sa yo ang lahat.
madaming dahilan, maraming pinag-ugatan.

pero isa ka na dun.
naexcite ako, alam mo ba yun?
Siguro naexcite ka din ng ganun.

kasi mula noon nagsulatan na tayo.
May pananabik sa kung anong bago.
Walang malisya to, maniwala kayo. :)

Kilig lang. 
Masaya lang.

Ang sulatan ay naging tawagan.
Nagsulputan ang mga langgam.
At nagsimula akong dagain.

Status ko ay muling sinilip.
In a relationship.
Tae. Badtrip.

1.09.2010

New Jersey Gay Marriage Bill Fails To Pass

i'm a tad sad by this. but they already have civil union at least.
i suggest you read the comments on the article in huffington. you will see very interesting arguments. here's a few i was able to chew on:

1. you can’t marry your partner, but you can marry your first cousin in 27 states
see it here

2. the bill is about regulating acceptable (norm) sexual behaviors

3. this is not about love, because truly, we can love anybody we want (just don't marry them). There are no rules limiting who loves whom and how.

4. what is the meaning of marriage in US anyway? Divorce is very common. Do we want to be associated with their definition of marriage?

5. Marriage is about a legal and societal norm.

6. Marriage is between one man and one woman. But bible shows stories of multiple partners. Bible didn't have annulment and divorce, so I think we have long deviated from the bible yet we keep using it as source for argument.

7. 19 different Christian clergymen came forward in support of same-sex marriage in NJ. That's grand for me.

8. A battle is lost; the war goes on. - Leland R. Erickson

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New Jersey Gay Marriage Bill Fails To Pass



| 01/ 7/10 05:00 PM |AP
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TRENTON, N.J. — New Jersey's state Senate has defeated a bill to legalize gay marriage, leaving it unlikely the state will have a gay marriage law in the very near future.

The bill needed 21 votes to pass; only 14 senators approved the measure Thursday.

Gay rights advocates had pushed hard to get the bill passed before Jan. 19, when Republican Chris Christie becomes governor. Democratic Gov. Jon Corzine promised to sign the bill if approved by the Legislature but Christie has said he would veto it.

New Jersey offers civil unions that grant the legal rights of marriage to gay couples. Five states – Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, and Vermont – allow gay marriage.

source: The Huffington Post

1.07.2010

Catholic Portugal set to legalize gay marriage

sharing :)

the world is expanding, we are getting more options to live freely with our love.
cheers to Portugal!

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Agence France-Presse
First Posted 21:11:00 01/06/2010

Filed Under: Social Issues, Gender Issues, Religions


LISBON- Catholic Portugal, traditionally one of Europe's most socially conservative countries, is expected to approve the legalization of gay marriage on Friday with a minimum of fuss.

With the governing Socialists and other left-wing parties enjoying a strong majority, the new law is likely to sail through the first reading debate and gain final approval before a visit by Pope Benedict XVI, due in Portugal in May.

In contrast to Spain, where the lead-up to the legalization of gay marriage in 2005 brought hundreds of thousands of demonstrators onto the streets, the bill in Portugal has provoked only muted opposition even from the right.

While normally vocal on the role of marriage and the family in society, the Catholic Church has refused to mobilize on a subject which, according to Lisbon's Cardinal Patriarch Jose Policarpo, is "parliament's responsibility".

"I think the Portuguese people have learnt one of the fundamental tenets of democracy: respect for the rights of the individual," Miguel Vale de Almeida, Portugal's first openly-gay lawmaker who was elected in September, told AFP.

Vale de Almeida, who is the Socialists' pointman on the legislation, said there is now a political majority in favor of gay marriage and that it is "too simplistic to link Catholicism and conservatism."

According to poll conducted late last year by the Eurosondagem institute, while a strong majority (68.4 percent) of Portuguese are opposed to adoptions by same-sex couples, they are more evenly divided when it comes to gay marriage with 49.5 percent against, with 45.5 percent in favor.

On Tuesday, campaigners handed a petition with more than 90,000 signatures to demand a referendum on the subject into parliament.

But having had its fingers burnt by two referendums which preceeded the legalization of abortion in 2007, the government has ruled out consulting with the public as the measure was part of its manifesto in last year's election.

Prime Minister Jose Socrates' Socialists may have lost their majority in the September 27 election, but still command the support of other left-wing parties in parliament who should guarantee that the gay marriage bill is passed.

While opposed to the concept of same-sex "marriages", the centre-right opposition Social Democrat party says it is favor of a civil partnership that would give gays and lesbians the same rights as heterosexual couples minus adoptions.

Deputies are also expected on Friday to vote two other bills submitted by the Green party, the Left Bloc and others which would grant gay and lesbian couples the right to adopt children.

If the gay marriage proposals do pass through parliament, they will the have to go through a parliamentary commission before coming back for the final approval.

According to media reports, both the government and the Catholic Church want the gay marriage issue to be resolved before the visit of the pope, scheduled for May 11-14.

source: inquirer.net

1.05.2010

outing



I hate it that I'm hesitating.

I love womyn. It's as natural to me as my period. It gives me joy and makes me happy. Womyn excite me. Well, only the hot, cool, confident, intelligent, fun, out of the box kind. I can burst into a song (uhm, probably just a poem, since I have below average singing voice. Haha) just to express my feelings on womyn. I can readily infuse it in my day to day conversations:

I tasted a dessert that's so divinely delicious and I go, "This food is soo good! Wow! I'm soo happy to be gay. I hope they make this dessert in womyn shape."

So why the hell am I not out? But then, if it's so innate, why the need to be out with it huh? *I'm turning schizo here* I think it's more oppressive to be out, because you feel the need to explain to people your sexuality. Why? Do we owe them anything just because we're gay? To officially give the homophobes the signal to lambast gays? Not a chance!

Other gays may feel the need to be out because they've intentionally hidden/denied their gay selves. I have not actually hidden, just not telling, because I don’t like explaining to people unless it's required. I'll confirm if anybody asks. So far, none has a clue or the guts to ask me yet or maybe it just doesn’t matter anymore, which is a feeling close to equal.

They say to be gay and stressing it is redundant. So I think I don’t need to be defensive and just live. Let it radiate from me and simply let go. That should lift a ton of burden. :)

I don’t need to be out. I'm gay, so I'll live my life and by doing so I'm outing myself.

1.03.2010

New Hampshire now 5th state to allow same-sex marriage

Good news for 2010! :-)

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New Hampshire now 5th state to allow same-sex marriage
January 1, 2010 -- Updated 1721 GMT (0121 HKT)




(CNN) -- After 19 years together Linda Murphy and Donna Swartwout tied the knot at 12:01 a.m. Friday, when New Hampshire's law legalizing same-sex marriage took effect.

They were among several couples early Friday who married under a full moon on the steps of the New Hampshire Statehouse in Concord.

At midnight, New Hampshire became the fifth state to allow same-sex couples to marry, joining Connecticut, Vermont, Massachusetts and Iowa.

The couple, who live in Hudson, New Hampshire, said they wanted to be married as soon as they could.

"We were thrilled and proud of New Hampshire ... it was a such a historic moment," Murphy said.

Swartwout said the marriage gives them "words and language that the rest of the world uses."

"When my nephew asks, 'Who's Linda?" I get to say, 'she's my wife,' " she said.

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See article here: cnn.com

1.02.2010

friendly friends



It's hard being gay, much more not being out.
But what's worse than that?
Your closest friends leaving to work overseas.
What's worse than that?
Reaching out for new friends, like starting over again
What's worse than that?
Getting rejected
What's worse than that?
Getting rejected because I intimidate them.

Ouch.
I realized I may not be for everyone. While some people enjoy reading my entries, it's an altogether different story about meeting me. I come with good intentions, but people have varying perceptions.

I had high hopes of what's out there, but that incident zapped me back to reality. Thanks for making me grounded and now, guarded.

To my future friends,
I can be intimidating without knowing it. But I can't mellow just to make you comfortable.
I'm not consciously sweet. I tell things as is, so you may get hurt. I won't apologize for that.
I may seem demanding because I ask questions point blank, but to answer is entirely your choice.
I love the outdoors and will often want to hang out with you, so please make time for me :-)
I will believe you and fight for you because I'm very loyal, so better be honest or you lose my trust.
I enjoy playful banter and witty repartee, don't take them seriously, let's just have fun.

I will tell you more, just go knock my door. :-)

12.31.2009

Share tayo :)




Six and a half years na kong nagbablog. Akalain mo yon?! Binandera ko ang buhay ko, mula kalamnan hanggang kaluluwa.

Sabi nila, wag daw todo todo magbigay kasi baka walang matira sa yo. Sa dami ng binahagi ko, hindi minsan ko naramdamang nabawasan ako. Kung may nawala man, yun ay ang mga sintemyento ko sa mga kung anik-anik na olats na parte ng pakikipagsapalaran ko. Kasi gumagaan ang pakiramdam ko every time sumusulat ako. Sa panahon ng "No therapeutic claims", ito na ang pinakamura at mabisang therapy! Sankapa di ba? :)

Ang totoo, mas nadagdagan ako mula nang nagsulat ako. Sa pagdami ng entries ko, dumami kaibigan ko. Nagka-fans pa ko! Naks! Wehehe. Obviously, nadagdagan din yabang ko. Haha!

Nung binalikan ko past entries ko, nagugulat ako. Sinabi ko talaga yon?! Ako talaga gumawa ng tulang yan? Akalain mo, naisip ko yun! Ang galing kasi! *ayan, ang yabang na naman! Haha!*

Kung magkaroon man ng pagkakataon na maisip ko na dumaan lang ang panahon ng ganun na lang na para bang nasayang, balikan ko lang ang past blog entries ko at madali akong maliliwanagan. Mas maliwanag at maputi pa sa naputikang t-shirt na binabad sa Tide Oxy-bleach. Ito ang patotoo - naging makabuluhan ang nakaraan.

Kung gusto nyo ko makilala, madali lang. basta marunong ka magbasa at may access sa internet. Malalaman mo lahat ng kabaliwan at kakornihan ko. Kung pano ako ka-OA magmahal at magreklamo. Kung gano ako katsismosa at kadaldal. Kung sinu-sino ang pinagnasahan ko at mga jinowa ko, pati kung kelan kami nagbreak at iba pang escapades!. Ultimo grammar errors at bloopers ko mabibisto mo! Haha. Madalas kasi type lang ako ng type at tamad na mag-edit.

Nitong papalapit ang Pasko, medyo detached ako. One week na lang, hindi ko pa rin feel ang espiritu ng Pasko. Magtrabaho ka ba naman hanggang Dec. 23 e. Pero nung nagshashopping na ko ng mga regalo sa pamilya ko, unti-unti sumigla ang pakiramdam ko. Plano ko nung una pa lang, magtitipid talaga ako, kaso pag namimili ka na at ito'y nakalaan sa mahal mo sa buhay, lalambot din susi ng pitaka mo e. Dahil ang totoo, mahal para sa mahal. :) Kung si jowa ko nabibilhan ng mga bonggang regalo, pamilya ko pa titipirin ko? Kesehodang pasaway si kapatid o kaya mahirap ispelengin si mother at sobrang higpit ni tatay, aminin na natin, mahal natin sila! :-p Ito pala ang meaning ng Pasko… mahal sa mahal! Haha! :)
Sorry, pero hindi lang para sa mga bata ang Pasko (ahahaha) kundi para sa lahat! Wag kayo madamot!

Super gasgas man sabihin, pero sa pagbibigay ko natagpuan ang sigla ng Pasko.

Salamat sa inyong lahat na nagbasa, nakiramay, nakipagflirt, nagcomment, naglurk , nang-okray, kinilig at nakitsismis. Mas malawak ang mundo sa world wide web. Excited na uli ako magkwento at magbigay ng sarili ko sa inyo. Share tayo! :)

12.20.2009

"Ang Ladlad" issue splits Comelec - ouch!

sad, hurtful news for LGBTQ in the Philippines :(
"Ang Ladlad" is an LGBTQ political party which got rejected by the Commission on Elections for two consecutive elections now. The reasons they rejected the party will make you cringe.

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Philippine Daily Inquirer
First Posted 04:51:00 12/18/2009

Filed Under: Eleksyon 2010, Inquirer Politics, Elections, Gender Issues, Religion & Belief

MANILA, Philippines — A petition for party-list accreditation from a gay rights group has become a divisive issue among the election commissioners, forcing Commission on Elections (Comelec) Chair Jose Melo to intervene and cast the final dissenting vote against Ang Ladlad.

The Comelec, meeting en banc on Wednesday to hear Ang Ladlad’s motion for reconsideration, voted to uphold a Second Division ruling last November rejecting Ang Ladlad’s petition to be recognized as a party-list group.

The decision, released Thursday, effectively bars Ang Ladlad, which advocates for gay rights, from joining the 2010 elections as a party-list group.

The commissioners voted along division lines, with the Second Division members reiterating their earlier decision to reject Ang Ladlad and the First Division members voting to overturn that decision.

Tie break
With the en banc evenly split at 3-3, Melo cast the tie-break vote on the side of the Second Division.

Melo defended the Second Division’s ruling that Ang Ladlad advocated immorality and violated the “moral parameters” set by the Bible and the Koran, the Christian and Muslim holy books, respectively.

“They are possibly religion-based, but as a society, the Philippines cannot ignore its more than 500 years of Muslim and Christian upbringing, such that some moral precepts espoused by said religions have seeped into society and these are now publicly accepted moral norms,” the Comelec chair said in his separate opinion.

“Until the time comes when Ladlad is able to justify that having mixed sexual orientations and transgender identities is beneficial to the nation, its application for accreditation under the party-list system will remain just that,” he added.

Original decision
In their original decision, the Second Division, composed of commissioners Nicodemo Ferrer, Lucenito Tagle and Elias Yusoph, quoted passages from the Bible and Koran and said that the lifestyle of the 22,000-strong Ang Ladlad violated morals and faith. It also said the group posed a danger to young Filipinos.

The First Division, made up of Commissioners Rene Sarmiento, Armando Velasco and Gregorio Larrazabal, disagreed and voted to overturn the decision.

The First Division members said there was no legal basis for rejecting the Ang Ladlad petition in the first place, with Sarmiento noting that the group’s petition “contains nothing that is morally reprehensible.”

What immorality?
Larrazabal denounced the Second Division decision, noting that the “resolution’s reliance on biblical and koranic provisions to sustain its finding of immorality blurs the separation between Church and State.”

He said Ang Ladlad’s petition made it clear that the group does not promote immorality.

“On the contrary, it merely attempts to make this commission appreciate the size of the country’s LGBT [lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender] community, its current plight, and the means by which petitioner-movant intends to help correct this situation,” he wrote in his opinion.

The 2009 petition was the second attempt by Ang Ladlad to join the party-list race. The Comelec rejected their first try in 2007 because of their lack of national presence. Kristine L. Alave

12.19.2009

SEE U ALL TONIGHT @ Generator Bar!! PARTY 4 A CAUSE

hey ladies, time to par-teh! I'll be going tonight.
If you wana meet up, just email me.
I'm excited to meet new peeps in this exclusive party.





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12.13.2009

Houston (biggest US city) elected openly lez mayor - HOORAY!



by MONICA RHOR, Associated Press Writer Monica Rhor, Associated Press Writer – 51 mins ago


HOUSTON – Houston became the largest U.S. city to elect an openly gay mayor, with voters handing a solid victory to City Controller Annise Parker after a hotly contested runoff.

Parker defeated former city attorney Gene Locke with 53.6 percent of the vote Saturday in a race that had a turnout of only 16.5 percent.

"This election has changed the world for the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered community. Just as it is about transforming the lives of all Houstonians for the better, and that's what my administration will be about," Parker told supporters after Locke conceded defeat.

Parker, 53, has never made a secret or an issue of her sexual orientation. But it became the focus of the race after anti-gay activists and conservative religious groups endorsed Locke and sent out mailers condemning Parker's "homosexual behavior."

Locke, 61, tried to distance himself from the anti-gay attacks while courting conservative voters who could tip the election in his favor. Meanwhile, gay and lesbian political organizations nationwide rallied to support Parker by raising money for her campaign and making calls urging people to vote.

Several other U.S. cities, including Portland, Ore., Providence, R.I., and Cambridge, Mass., have openly gay mayors, but none as large as Houston.

A little more than 152,000 residents turned out to cast ballots in the nation's fourth largest city, which has a population of 2.2 million. Of those voters, 81,743 chose Parker — some 11,000 votes more than Locke received.

Although Locke condemned the anti-gay rhetoric, two of his key supporters contributed money to a conservative political action committee that sent out an anti-gay mailer earlier this month, urging voters not to pick Parker because she was endorsed by the "gay and lesbian political caucus."

Campaign finance reports show Ned Holmes, finance chairman of Locke's campaign, and James Dannenbaum, a member of the campaign's finance committee, each gave $20,000.

Late Saturday, Locke offered his congratulations to Parker and urged the city to move on from the bruising campaign fight.

"Here's what our city needs now: It needs unity. It needs us to come together and heal like we've never healed before, and to move forward under a new administration," he said.

Parker and Locke, both Democrats in the nonpartisan race, advanced to the runoff after garnering more votes than two other candidates on Nov. 3. Parker will succeed Bill White, who is term-limited after serving six years and is seeking the Democratic nomination for governor.

Houston is predominantly Democratic and about 25 percent black and one-third Hispanic. About 60,000 of its residents identify themselves as gay or lesbian.

12.12.2009

let me




I will touch you and glide my fingertips to your velvety folds of skin
Raise my moistened fingers and bring them near my mouth
Smell your essence with subtle longing
I'll open my lips just a little bit to extend my tongue
So that through my fingertips flavored with your yearning
We can be introduced,
Like shaking hands for the first time.
I want to know you more and slowly taste all your desires.
I'll do this until just a thin film of your moisture is left on my skin.
Then swallow your fluid so that you become part of me and fuel my fervor
I'll take your tentative hands, bring them to me,
So you'll know me intimately.
I'll guide you to my inner longings
Make you understand the depth of my feelings
I'll flow with no rush, as if to say we have all the time
Let you pass by, even go back and forth if you like
Then when you're done,
I'll lift your hands so that I can kiss it
And be affirmed of how I feel for you.
Make me your lollipop candy,
Experience my sweet intentions and my firm convictions
I'll cup your face, kiss you deeply
Tongue you forcibly and delete your doubts
With each probe, I want you to trust me,
Let me go further
Until you submit.
Because I have long surrendered
To this force we are enslaved of

12.08.2009

chaaat up!



it's been around four years since I last chatted via YM. i stopped since i transferred to a job that prohibits it. before, i can't imagine life sans YM, but then after years of not doing it, i unlearned the habit.

recently, i noticed that many people in the office are using YM. one idle moment, i tried to install one and use it. but i lost interest easily. weeks went by and i don't even think about it.

but i got idle again. so there.

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Chat 1 - to a friend who's from the South and working now in Manila now.

Firewomyn: How long have you been staying in Manila now?
Southwomyn: It's been two years

Firewomyn: And how is it so far?
Southwomyn: It was hard toadjust at first, but now I'm okay. I learned a lot.

Firewomyn: Can you give me the top three things you learned?
Southwomyn: What is this, a beauty contest?

Firewomyn: Nope, it's a quiz contest
Southwomyn: Hahahaha

Firewomyn: So?
Southwomyn: Your question is tough

Firewomyn: I thought you said you learned a lot?
Southwomyn: …. *still thinking*

Firewomyn: *hay, bummer*

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Chat 2 - to someone I thought I know

Firewomyn: Hi! 'Long time.
Overseaswomyn: Hello

Firewomyn: How have you been?
Overseaswomyn: I'm okay.

Firewomyn: Where are you now?
Overseaswomyn: In Jakarta.

Firewomyn: *starts to think* what are you doing there?
Southwomyn: pre-school teacher

Firewomyn: aah, are you X? (name of my friend)
Overseaswomyn: err, no.

Firewomyn: *oh gosh. bummer again*

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well, at least it brought me a topic to share :D

12.07.2009

Forum for Us

UP Law, UP Center for Women's Studies, Libertas, and Rainbow Rights Project

invite you to a forum on

the State of the Party List System in the light of the decisions on Ang Ladlad and other petitions

Dec. 8, Tuesday 9am
at Malcolm Theater,
UP Law, Diliman, QC.

I know it's short notice, but I hope you can come.

12.06.2009

525,600 minutes

"There's only now. There's only here.
Give in to love, or live in fear.
No other path, no other way.
NO DAY BUT TODAY.”



Embrace a new Valentine Experience!
Watch RENT Musical on FEBRUARY 14, 2010 (Sunday, 8PM)


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12.05.2009

Pride March today! Dare, Join!



Official TFP Statement For Press Release
Posted by Task Force Pride

LGBT Filipinos Dare, Care and March with Pride in 2009


Once again, the Filipino Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) community along with their friends, families, allies and supporters, will come together in one massive and colorful parade at the 2009 Manila Pride March. On Saturday, December 5, 3pm at Remedios Circle, Malate, right in time for Human Rights week, LGBT Filipinos will come out in full-force not only to show their pride but also to stake their claim on their right to participate fully in civil, political, economic, cultural and social life in the Philippines and beyond.


The theme of this year’s Pride Parade is “We Dare. We Care” to signify the LGBT community’s proactive stance in addressing the human rights problems affecting their sector. “We shall no longer be complacent. We dare to remind the Philippine government and the rest of society that we have an obligation under international human rights law to promote and protect the rights and well-being of all people, including LGBT Filipinos, who are being threatened by the looming economic crisis, natural disasters, armed conflict, religious intolerance and lack of political will of some government officials,” according to Great Ancheta, Head Coordinator of Task Force Pride (TFP) Philippines 2009.


“The LGBT community will march to show their indignation and concern over the lack of human rights protections for LGBT Filipinos as shown in the recent decision of the Commission on Elections (COMELEC) not to accredit Ang Ladlad, a partylist group for LGBT Filipinos, the non-passage of the Anti-Discrimination Bill and the increasing incidence of violence and discrimination committed against them in large-scale because of their sexual orientation and gender identity,” adds Great.


“The 2009 Pride March is the Filipino LGBT community’s expression of solidarity with our brothers and sisters who have braved the streets of Taipei, Hong Kong, Tokyo, London and other parts of the world to fight discrimination, homophobia, lesbophobia, biphobia and transphobia at the national and international levels,” according to Naomi Fontanos also of TFP. Worldwide, pride marches have served as a platform of solidarity, consciousness- raising and empowerment for the LGBT community.


Prominent human rights actors in the Southeast Asian Region have expressed their support for TFP. In its statement, Forum-Asia, an international human rights organization, stated that “the Pride March is an excellent platform for the LGBT groups and individuals to forge further solidarity and network to express themselves on the various ongoing issues that affect the community not only in the Philippines but the rest of the world.”


Dr. Sriprapha Petcharamesree, the Thai representative to the ASEAN Inter-governmental Commission on Human Rights, said in her solidarity message, “the rights of everyone [have] to be guaranteed and the space has to be equally created without which the building of ASEAN Community could not be fully realized.”


The Commission on Human Rights (CHR) of the Philippines also endorsed the 2009 Manila Pride March. According to CHR Chair, Atty. Leila De Lima in their message of solidarity, “We laud TFP Philippines for organizing this annual Pride March, and we recognize the courage of those who choose to participate in it. The Commission on Human Rights of the Philippines stands ready to offer whatever support it can, not only in relation to this event, but also in order to generally advance respect for, and the protection of, the human rights of the LGBT community.”


The Pride March will take place on 5 December 2009, Saturday and will pass by designated streets in historic Malate after the assembly at the Remedios Circle at 3 pm. It will begin with a grand parade, followed by a magnificent program, an extraordinary pageant and culminate in an unforgettable night of partying.


The 2009 Manila Pride March is organized by Task Force Pride (TFP) Philippines, a network of LGBT and LGBT-supportive groups and individuals who seek to promote positive visibility for the LGBT community including Bed Malate, Gay, Transgender and Bisexual Advocates for Youth (GABAY), Lesbian Advocates Philippines (LeAP), Metropolitan Community Church Quezon City (MCCQC), Outragemag.com, Single Guys Online (SGO) PH, and Society of Transsexual Women of the Philippines (STRAP). Founded in 1999, it is the official organizing network of the annual LGBT Pride Parade in Manila.


This year’s Pride March partners and sponsors are EZ Lubricating Jelly, Frenzy Condoms, Absolut, Andrew Christian, Archion Architects, BED, Beverly Hills 6750, Gabriela Women’s Party, Crobar, Gay and Lesbian Activist Network for Gender Equality (GALANG), Sen. Loren Legarda, Great Ancheta, Lookal, O Bar, Pride Exchange, Rainbow Bloggers Philippines, Rainbow Radio Pilipinas, MyFemme Magazine, Silya and The Library.


For more information, please contact any of the following members of the TFP 2009 Executive Committee: Great Ancheta (0920.926.4322), Naomi Fontanos (0920.269.7607).
Email: tfpexecom-owner@yahoogroups.com, Website: taskforcepride.blogspot.com.