wired

When couples close to you or people you know break up, you get affected. And forces you to rethink yours, your relationship (assuming you have one) or the lack of (if you’re single). It’s like an electric current that somehow gets passed on by virtue of the friendship connection. And as such, from being complacently okay in the plateau of things, you get shaken and kinda panic. Wait a minute, they seemed happy, ok. What happened? Inward, How dare them break up and do this to me?! So now that one or more dared to leave the plateau settlement, those remaining are left wondering and sometimes discover that they want more or want differently now. The agonizing life assessment (read: quarter/mid-life crisis) ensues if one is brave enough tread this path. And then the painful realization of what has been nagging you for some time. Ok is not okay. Plateau is not the new peak. A peak can plateau, or a plateau can peak, but peak does not equal plateau and vice versa. You now make the drastic decision to the shock of your significant other. Even after deciding, it'll still be an excruciating ping-pong of indecision (of letting go  or of staying) and confusion (did I do the right thing or is this a mistake?). Meanwhile, you chance upon the friend who broke up with her bf/gf because of issues. You ask him/her, how s/he is. And s/he tells you, we got back last night. Hindi ko pala kaya. Dramarama sa hapon. Hehe. At that instant, you go fuck yourself. Haha. But in the end, you learn that brave is the new you. And you are now more than okay. :)