4.21.2011

wired

When couples close to you or people you know break up, you get affected. And forces you to rethink yours, your relationship (assuming you have one) or the lack of (if you’re single). It’s like an electric current that somehow gets passed on by virtue of the friendship connection. And as such, from being complacently okay in the plateau of things, you get shaken and kinda panic. Wait a minute, they seemed happy, ok. What happened? Inward, How dare them break up and do this to me?! So now that one or more dared to leave the plateau settlement, those remaining are left wondering and sometimes discover that they want more or want differently now. The agonizing life assessment (read: quarter/mid-life crisis) ensues if one is brave enough tread this path. And then the painful realization of what has been nagging you for some time. Ok is not okay. Plateau is not the new peak. A peak can plateau, or a plateau can peak, but peak does not equal plateau and vice versa. You now make the drastic decision to the shock of your significant other. Even after deciding, it'll still be an excruciating ping-pong of indecision (of letting go  or of staying) and confusion (did I do the right thing or is this a mistake?). Meanwhile, you chance upon the friend who broke up with her bf/gf because of issues. You ask him/her, how s/he is. And s/he tells you, we got back last night. Hindi ko pala kaya. Dramarama sa hapon. Hehe. At that instant, you go fuck yourself. Haha. But in the end, you learn that brave is the new you. And you are now more than okay. :)

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

i think may connection yung sasabihin ko sa post mo. hehehe.

i once read na overconfidence is not actually a good thing in a relationship because one becomes complacent. so when one becomes complacent, s/he will take the SO or the relationship for granted.

i've experienced this. si SO can sometimes be too confident and do not worry sa mga bagay bagay coz everything is OK, so sometimes she forgets she (and i) have to maintain our relationship.

may connection naman sa sinabi mo diba?

- the anonymous

rz fortajada said...

This happened to me recently. I mean, sort of, dahil hindi naman natuloy. Haha. Nag-isip isip lang ako. :P

firewomyn said...

@the anonymous - yep, may konek! :)i hope you and so are more than ok. hehe.

@rz - yeah, saw your latest post. at ano ang napagtanto mo? :)

Kim said...

@RZ

saw ur blog and learned that u'r from UPM. Me too. Orcom din but my student number is 2001.

Who's our dept head? lol

Anonymous said...

thank you fire! i hope so din :) we're learning.

- the anonymous

Anonymous said...

hahaha indecisions, quarterlife crisis, hmmm and a lot of bull! it's givin me mixed emotions... anyhoo, i miss readin ur blog.. entries such as this one. :) how are u spendin ur holy week? -w1cked

Anonymous said...

kahit nga ung mag jowa na nagaaway sa kanto naapektuhan ako... hay, kaya ayan... - anonimu

Anonymous said...

mid life crisis ba ito?? hahaha..actually, i think it is just a choice between having a life of revolving doors of excitement or setting up your own entrance with the security that goes with it. .. does this make sense? ..twistedhalo

rz fortajada said...

@firewomyn: Well, I decided to stay put. :) I think I'll do best where I am now. :P

@Kim: Wow, always glad to meet a fellow OrCom major. :) Si Dr. Bautista, I think. :))

Anonymous said...

oh well, emotions are stronger than logic. and only in hindsight that we see clear vision. sana 20/20 na vision ko hehe -w1cked

Miko :-) said...

sh!tty cliché to bring up but we all meet each other for a reason - good and bad :) all lessons and experiences but no regrets. Just don't repeat what was a Fu@@Ed up one. And let's try our best not use "excuses" because of past experiences. I've learned to expect less and be brutally honest :) cheers n love all! - peace